Hey,

I'm obviously a newcumer here, but I've been pleasing women vaginally for years. I've never really tried to have anal sex with them though because they say that it may hurt, or they aren't interested. It isn't a gay thing, because believe me, I'm not attracted to men. I have an extensive background in the medical field, though. If women don't have prostate glands, how does that work? I have seen a lot of porns about women doing anal though, and I've heard that some like it. Is that actually true? If so, can some of you ladies explain it to me? Thanks in advance.

All replies and private messages are totally welcome! I need to know your answers, because I've been wondering for many years.

 

Just FYI, if you come back to this site and can't find this post it's because it has been moved out of General Discussion and into Sexuality.

 

Okay. That's why I posted it in both, I wasn't sure since I'm new.

 

This site has a ton of Karens so get use to it.

 

As a straight guy, I've never understood the fascination with anal sex. There are so many more productive things to do.

 

As a bisexual man, I have anal sex with my wife all the time but never think of it an anything other than a kink. She says she enjoys it as long as we use lots of lube. As for her preference, I'd say she prefers oral sex overall. Most women feel the same it seems to me, though I have met a few over the years who liked deep hard vaginal fucking. It's a wild world.

 

Done well anal sex can be incredibly arousing, done badly and damage can be done to anal tissue

 

I am not into anal until I am aroused. That means there is work for him to do before he can have my ass. Once I am aroused, it adds a whole new level of pleasure to have my ass fucked. In fact, I have had my strongest orgasms during anal.
Before I tried it, I never thought I would actually enjoy it but I do. It requires some planning....a healthy amount of Astroglide and the ability to relax & just let it slide in.

 

Women do not have a prostate but do have something similar called the skene's gland that is located in about the same area as a mans prostate that is stimulated during anal sex, same as if she was male, and can cause orgasm. The nerves in the anal tract are unlike in the vagina because anally the nerves exist well into the system while the vagina almost all of the nerves are concentrated on the actual visible areas. Not all women ever even try anal sex because there is a good bit of work to do to be prepped for it and "accidental anal" can cause serious injuries. Think like this there are as many nerve endings in the asshole alone as there are in the entire vaginal area so every sensation is felt, the person getting penetrated can feel every millimeter of what ever is being used to penetrate them. I did see the "not gay" idea and wanted to remind you that most world militaries had a practice in the field of men having sex with men in order to combat diseases from prostitutes, in the old west men would often have trail lovers that were other cowboys, it is just sex it is not gay, to be gay you really have to also be romantically attracted to the same gender.

 

All of the work that I do, I love to do. Thank you for sharing this info with me!

 

Thanks for this info! I'm learning a lot here already, you're all really awesome!

 

In answering the question, I marked “it depends.” Some of the women I have been with have willingly had anal sex and one asked for it. Half didn’t want anything to do with it. So it depends.

I would like to have more anal sex with women because it adds to variety and keeps sex more lively.